Friday, October 13, 2017

Our Dance Friends

By Jennifer Flores, Waikele
Taking lessons, the not-right-now, where they say they’ll do it "later" to escape the pressure of performing in front of people. We often label these people as uncommitted, or know-it-alls. Very often, these people have no problem practicing a skill alone; they just don’t want you watching. Examples: saying they’re "tired" or "will practice later;" trying things only once or twice rather than using all the practice time; listening to advice, but saying they’ll apply it "later."

“Social Dancers feel that the essence of dance is human expression - -
the landscape of their souls.

The "I’ve got it! I don’t need your advice," where students are so afraid of looking bad in front of the teacher that they unconsciously reject the advice they need. Often, they get the reputation of being arrogant but they are good people. It can often be insecurity driving the "arrogance". Examples: saying “I already know that” or “I did that when you weren’t watching;” aborting a movement halfway through because they “already got it.”

"Maui Waltz by Loyal Garner

The "Let me help other people instead," where focusing on others helps to calm the anxiety sufferer down. We either view these people as incredibly giving, or as focusing too much on their partner’s development instead of their own. Examples: giving feedback to a partner instead of focusing on what they can do better; asking a teacher to “look at their partner” as a way to get feedback for themselves. And fortunately, most of us have understanding.

"Social Dancers hope that every dance they do reveals
some wonderful thing a human can do.”