Monday, February 12, 2018

Learning In West Oahu

As a couple, your dance skills are the result of your learning system. Yes, you can learn from others on the dance floor but mainly you will be the product of your instructors of the social dance clubs and/or the Dance Studios. This may sound heavy, but the point is - Your teachers gains nothing by heaping out sugary false praise. Why is it normal to dance since no one was born a dancer? Seriously, we've checked and it's no coincidence that most people feel a little out of place on a dance floor.

"Dancers come and go in the twinkling of an eye but the dance lives on."


This can lead to the inner skeptic that is squatting rent free on your mental real estate to start speaking up. When a compliment comes in, without a decent amount of proof, it's easy to cast it aside and throw it in the "You're paid to tell me that" bin. The solution? As humans, we are still working on perfecting it, and it comes down to doling out compliments and evidence in equal parts. Some prefer to take either one with a grain of salt.

"Til I Waltz Again With You" by Theresa Brewer


That way, the instant emotional response of "Great job!" is matched by the logical reason why. As a dance couple, especially at a dance location, allow the teacher to do the teaching. You can decide later how to do it your way. Nothing wrong in getting more than one opinion. Going further, one thing that can drive a wedge through a dance partnership is complaining.  This can be disguised as teaching, or direct and intentional. At any rate, the social dancers in West Oahu are moving in the right direction.

“Social dancers know that there is only one of them in all time,
this expression in dancing can be unique."