Friday, September 21, 2018


Lucky I have more than an ordinary counter. There is nothing extra in the writing of this blog but the hits are holding up very steady. My counter doesn't just count hits but can tell me where they came from. It this case, I am getting an awful lot of scam, spam robot hits. I don't know what benefit they get from it but they do bother. Then the counter used to tell me from what country. Now the biggest percentage is from "Unknown Region." So what do I know?

“With good music and a good dance, you enhance your physical,
emotional, spiritual and mental well-being.”

So the only way these blogs will progress will be from Feedback. The "Two Centers" willing to stick their 2 cents in dance information to share with our fellow dancers. The reader/dancers would be happy, the Two Centers would be happy, and the blog will have hits going through the roof. The blog will get to the point when they can refer to themselves as Social Media. We can cover the dance functions and make some terrific blogs. Finally we can make our Best Blog independent, (from me.)

"Believe"? by Cher (1999)

We will eventually have photos in every blog. They will not be seen in Nigeria or Pakistan like in Facebook, but they will be seen on Oahu by anybody and everybody. And we will know how to get the best photos. Like two people in the photo is more effective than one. Three is more effective than two. But 20 is not better than 19. Peas in a pod is not as good as an unsorted group. Too bad I have fumbleitis and I just have to pass my camera around and hope for the best.

"Social dancers know that about all you can do in life is be who you are.
Some people will like you for you. Some will like you for what you
can do for them, and some won’t like you at all."

Monday, September 17, 2018

James and Yolanda Tilley

Hi Grandpa,
Attached are a few pics from the 50th anniversary party for my parents.
Hope you like them...Much love,
 Your Granddaughter, Tracey

My daughter Yolanda and her husband James

"Human beings grow best with encouragement and love. Today let every word
you speak (to yourself and others) be filled with kindness."

Thursday, September 13, 2018

Ballroom Dancing

By Jason Lombard. Mililani

Ballroom dancing has been the most practiced form of social dance on Oahu in the last century just like the rest of Hawaii. And ballroom dancing has gradually divided itself into groups. The first when the American style discipline was introduce on Oahu in the 50s and somewhat different than the street or social dancers. And in the 60s the Peripherals, the Swing dancers and the Argentine Tango dancers. Shortly thereafter arrived the first Internationals. By the 80s we had the Social dancers at about 20%, the Peripherals at 10%, the American at 40% and the International dancers at 30%, and all under the description - Ballroom Dancers.

“Social dancers learn quickly that life doesn't always go the way they want it to,
and that's okay, they still dance on.”

Then came the Palladium in the old style of the Big Ballrooms. And the Internationals were on the rise and there was much printed matter advising the dancers. Even suggesting they should have some lessons and experience in American before taking International classes. Clearly an implication that International was on a higher plane than American. In the Palladium, arose terms "Ala Wai Dancer" and "Junk Dancer," to describe the non International. We can plainly see that International Style of Dance peaked shortly thereafter.

"I Don't Want To Miss A Thing" by Aerosmith (1998)

Meanwhile the social dancers on Oahu were increasing and dancing in small intimate groups, in Gas Stations, Malls, Parks, School Cafeterias and if lucky, in a District Park or a Community Center. There were more Social Clubs forming and the type of dancing remains in the American Style but readily interchangeable with the Night Club and the Social Club environment. In this century it is the Social Dancer that will prevail socially. You have a different view of it? Your welcome.

"Social dancers believe that the stupid neither forgive nor forget;
the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but never forget."

Saturday, September 8, 2018


Blogging is not "Ordinary Communication Media" - To whom it may concern, one way, newsletters, email flyers, advertising, web sites. They do their job but there ain't nuttin' like a blog. It is enough to give me pause to rethink the situation and delete another blog. If the possible reader/dancers cannot communicate pertinent information to me, I am limited in publishing what social media must have. If I, in turn, do not get the hits, then that is ample evidence of wasted time.

“Social dancers believe that you can use your body to free your mind.
That's the blessing bestowed by dancing to good music.” 

The places in town are pretty set, with terrific Web sites, good advertising, newspapers, magazines, radio and TV. So they may look upon blogs as superfluous. All my blogs operate mostly on the SOS method. (same old shit) because it is mostly me, where as it should include all 40 thousand dancers on Oahu. Actually the hits go up when I have one or two information contributors. The blog most indicated to be deleted is ???.

"Un-Break My Heart" by Toni Braxton (1996)

From Kapolei and up the Waianae Coast to Makaha, is the number one upcoming spot. All because of the Rail Catastrophe. Ko Ilima already has something going but it is pretty upscale. Something like Cholo's Homestyle on the North Shore with a bigger dance floor would be perfect. Live music is better because they play more oldies but goodies. But some DJ's understand Social Dance Music which is for a more experience crowd.

"Many social dancers believe that if you can laugh at it, you can live with it."

Tuesday, September 4, 2018

Blogging still running.

Yes I still think blogs are important when you know your audience. There are many local blogs for small organizations on the mainland and they are not that much. Much different than a blog that covers a city of a million people. However Twitter and Facebook will not do as well because though they have billions of readers, they are all over the world. If it benefits you, go for it. However, in our case we cover Oahu with about a million people.

"Social dancers believe that in Dancing, the creator and the thing created,
the artist and the expression, are one. Each participates completely
in the other for total enjoyment."

The information-gathering part of a blogger's job is the Information Contributor and it is usually called reporting, in contrast to the production part of the job such as writing the blog. Sometime in our blogging we must do both. All I can do is get the blogs going in the right direction and setting them up for my eventual retirement from running each one. One of them will go independent next year. I still feel, I am doing good within my physical limitations. I have tried my utmost to communicate and I am still doing it. I just have to be patient and we will see what we will see.

"Because You Loved Me" by CĂ©line Dion  (1996)

Now we are going to make contact with Waianae and Makaha. Yes, they are on this island and need ordinary citizen help. They will be in trouble when "Rapid Transit" sets in. At present, they can make it to Honolulu Hale in an hour and a half on the #93 express bus. But with "Rapid Transit" they are counting on fourteen hour work days. How about a few business parks on the Waianae Coast? Plenty room and the residents could live, work and play in their own kuleana. Paradise, at last.

"Social dancers believe that what you think of yourself is much more important
than what others think of you, but try to understand."

Friday, August 31, 2018

The Ballroom Dance Craze

By Genevieve Bernstein, Hawaii Kai.

In the teens decade of the last century, the US went dance-mad and much of the world followed suit.This dance craze was given much impetus by a young couple Vernon and Irene Castle. Vernon, an English comedian was working in America in stage musicals and Irene, a wannabee dancer met. He got her a job in the musical he was working in and they were married in 1911. They practiced and practiced, went to Paris as a dance team and were a smash hit. They returned to New York where they began a series of tea dances that became the rage of high society.

“Social dancers believe that life is dance and everyone
dances with their own rhythm.”

And of course other dance teachers bloomed all over. From 1912 to 1915 over 100 ballroom dances were created. The Castles founded Castle House, a studio for teaching a more refined type of dancing. A natural sociological function to distinguish themselves from the "street dancers," the lower classes. Much as the Internationals have done in present day Hawaii. They created many dances, the Castle Walk, the Castle Valse Classique, the Castle Tango, the Castle Last Waltz, the Castle Combination, the Castle Lame Duck, and the Maxixe. And most of their dances became fashionable in most of the American upper class ballrooms.

 "Waterfalls" by TLC  (1995)

And the Castles firmly established the terminology for this type of dancing as "ballroom." When they first founded Castle House, they had trouble finding a band that played music suitable for their dances. They met James Reese Europe (a black man) and engaged him as their personal musician. Many black musicians in New York looked down on syncopated music. Ragtime was associated with minstrel shows. Europe decide that his future lay in popular music and realized the power of syncopation, even in the primitive form of those days and made great use of it. He played in Carnegie Hall in 1914 ten years before the great Paul Whiteman.

"Social dancers believe that there may be three sides to every story:
yours, theirs and the truth."

Monday, August 27, 2018

Hang In There

By Derek Anderson, Manoa

Having just finished college on the Mainland, I took a Ballroom dance class at Arthur Murray's as a way to meet the fair sex. Sound familiar? The course taught 6 dances and we met 6 Tuesdays for an hour. I paid close attention, tried hard, and was pleased to receive several compliments. I was excited when the instructor invited the class to go Ballroom Dancing with him the coming Friday for "Graduation".  I even remember going over my notes thinking what a great time I was going to have that night. Talk about a set up, I never had a chance. First I found I couldn’t tell a Tango from a Waltz from a Swing to save my life. To my inexperienced ear, they all sounded the same.

"Social dancers believe that if you love your music and dance from your heart,
your partner is sure to feel it too."

Then once the instructor told me what dance it was, I realized I could not remember the steps. The poor women in the class, bless their hearts, encouraged me to try and reminded me of some of the steps.Then I found out I didn’t know how to lead the steps. In class we had memorized the patterns. I started to seethe. Next I found I couldn’t hear the beat and think of the steps at the same time. Now I was angry. The ladies tried to cheer me up. They said none of the other guys were doing very well either. Oh, great. That makes me feel much better. But nothing prepared for the final acid pill. There was a girl in the class I had a hopeless crush on. I had tried unsuccessfully to dance with her three times that night.

"Bump n' Grind" by R. Kelly  (1994)

As she sat there twiddling her thumbs at the table, the instructor came over and asked her to dance. She couldn’t remember a thing either, but once he put his big arms around her she started to Waltz like Cinderella. She smiled and laughed and forgot about me. Hmmm, so this is what leading is all about. I just crossed my arms and steamed. It was obvious in the game of leading and following, the guy got the short end of the stick. I contemplated the cosmic joke that the sex that needs the easier part somehow got stuck with the harder part. No Fair ! Where do I go to report this injustice ?  No, I was not the winner. I soon left. Despite my total humiliation, afterwards I decided not to quit.  I sure am glad I didn't.  Nor should you. I am still having the time in my life in the social clubs and even in the nightclubs.

"We ought to dance with rapture that we might be alive …
and part of the living, incarnate cosmos." -D.H. Lawrence